Weigh-in Wednesday

Don't have a heart attack - yes it is me, and yes I posted yesterday...amazing I know.  Just priming the pump - trying to get some words flowing freely...not there yet but I will let you know when I am.

Weigh in today - I was down another 3.6 pounds. So in the two weeks since the competition began, I have lost 5.8 pounds. That is unheard of for me - I am really happy about it. Which is good, because that is what carried me through my run and the ab class from hell this morning. I haven't heard from my sister with the results from her family yet, so at this point I am winning!

I find that I am not struggling much with the eating, and that any struggling actually stems only from the fact that healthy food is low in the house right now and payday isn't until Saturday. But overall, I am watching my carb intake and not really eating sweets (I had a couple of bites of apple pie last night - no biggie) and loving the moderation much more than simply erasing things completely from my diet. I am really focusing on listening to my body and feeding it what it wants and needs. With all of the working out I am doing, I find that I naturally crave more protein, and so I have been trying to keep that supplied. 

Question for you all: when I am taking two rest days from exercise each week, does it matter if they are consecutive or separate?

Blogger's Block

Everyday, I think that I will write something and post it. And everyday, the words fail me. Writing has always been such a therapeutic thing for me, something that came easily and flowed unrestrained. But in the last few weeks, the words have halted. When I sit and look at the screen, or a blank piece of paper, my head begins to feel light and swirly and I hear rushing in my ears, and I can't string three words together, let alone sentences or paragraphs. I feel lately like I don't know what is going on with me, or how to flip it around. So today I am prying the words out of my head and forcing them into a post in the hopes of reversing whatever spell it is that is keeping my thoughts bound tightly in my head. I have to start somewhere.

I hit the gym this morning again - the All Motion Trainer for 63 minutes and 720 calories. Tomorrow will be W6D2 of C25K, and I am a bit worried as every day brings me closer to week 7, when every day is a straight 25 minute running - no more intervals for me. I am signing up for Sacramento's Run to Feed the Hungry on Thanksgiving morning. It will be my first 5K ever, and I am nervous but also excited to do it. I am planning to run the entire thing, which will be a huge accomplishment for me if I pull it off.

Tomorrow is the second weigh-in for my family competition - last week I had lost 2.2 pounds and was very excited. Everyone else had lost .5 or gained, so amazingly I am in the lead thus far. When we started, I was saying that I didn't expect to win,that I am fairly certain my brother-in-law Ron will win it, and I was really doing it for the motivation. But you know what? That 2.2 pounds was a bit intoxicating. And it is ON now. I am going to do my best to win bragging rights and the $75. The final weigh in is the day before Thanksgiving, and when we gather together for Thanksgiving dinner, I plan on being able to be thankful for winning. 

The Incredible Vanishing Blogger

Ahem. I do not even know where to start this post. After having been AWOL for over a month, I feel awkward stepping back in here like I was never gone. Part of me feels like I should have some excuse or story to share about why I've been gone, about how I've fallen off the wagon and gained 15 pounds, or about how I was abducted by Gypsies and have embarked on an illustrious career as one of their dancers. 

Another part of me feels like maybe I shouldn't be working my way back into this at all, but should instead just let it go. Because coming back to the blogging has mirrored that struggle we have all faced with getting back onto the health kick after a couple of weeks of binging on cream puffs and Cheetos. As more and more weeks have passed, I've thought, "It is just too hard to jump in again. It will take too much effort to reestablish myself and really get into it again. I don't really mind this sequestered life that I am leading." 

And the funny thing is, I haven't been binging, or laying around on the couch, or dancing with the gypsies. I've been hitting the gym five days a week, and recently began a weight-loss challenge with some members of my family. I am doing well in this arena. It is the rest of my life that has felt as though it is coming apart at the seams. You know that scene in "The Nightmare Before Christmas" where Jack pulls the thread and Oogie Boogie falls apart? I have felt that thread coming loose, and have just been waiting for the one tug on it to send my inner bugs scattering, leaving me deflated on the ground. 

But somehow I am still all in one piece, and still dragging myself through life, the only time I actually feel productive and useful being that hour to hour-and-a-half in the gym each morning. Maybe I can take that small victory and stretch it until some more aspects of my life are protected under its cover. I am thinking that this blog should be one of the tent poles. Maybe some of you can help me drive in that first stake.

Get used to disappointment.

Walking into my teeny tiny gym today, I found that both of my beloved all motion trainer machines were occupied. I’ll admit, upon seeing the two biddies lovely ladies getting their burn on what I have decided are my machines, I had a quick thought of just turning around and going home. I mean, how else was I supposed to burn my 700 calories in 60 minutes?

This was disappointment number 1 – my expectations for what was going to happen at the gym were not met. And I had a choice – let those broken expectations dictate what I was going to do, essentially send me packing, or reconfigure the expectations into something I could work with.

Well, one of the two ellipticals which stand right next to the amts was open. Now to me, the amt is like the elliptical’s older, cooler, hotter brother. the elliptical is great and all – he’s sweet, cute, and funny, but, well, once you meet the amt, you just can’t help wanting to be his girlfriend (don’t worry, elliptical, I won’t forget you – we’ll always be friends. it’s not you – it’s me.) That was the one I went with, and I planted myself on the elliptical. I was still feeling disappointed (especially with having to be right next to the lady enjoying my amt) but I thought I should try to move forward – life is full of disappointment. It has been a while since I have been on the elliptical. Like probably a couple of years. So I start moving my feet a bit, and let me tell you, I forgot how weird the stride is on those things. That is not really a movement that I make anywhere else in my life, and I didn’t care for it. In fact, I really disliked it.

Here is where I hit disappointment number 2 – my new plan, which was designed to help me overcome the disappointment of losing the first plan, was uncomfortable and not anywhere near meeting my old expectations. Again, I was faced with a choice – bail out on the cardio and go home, switch to the dreaded treadmill, or suck it up and keep going, knowing that it wasn’t going to be as good as I’d hoped, but at least it would be something. Taking a deep breath, I went with the third option and turned on the TV screen, only to be met squarely with:

Disappointment number 3. Apparently something wasn’t working with the cable, because USA, the channel I have grown very fond of watching while I work out, wasn’t working. At all. Black screen. Leaving only 3 other channels to choose from – ESPN (I don’t like sports) CNN (or the people interviewed on the 24 hour news stations) or NBC and the today show (which isn’t as bad as bamboo under my fingernails, but it isn’t usually a very pleasant experience for me.) Another disappointment, another choice. I could do twenty minutes and pretend like that was all the time I had planned on working out today, plug into my iPod which is in desperate need of some new workout music, or watch Meredith Vieira try again and again to be funny while invariably failing (I mean, for goodness sake, Matt Lauer wasn’t even there today, and he is the one thing I like about that show.)

I did a mental check with myself, realizing how many times my immediate decision would be to just quit. I thought to myself “good heavens, is this how I respond to ALL the disappointment in my life?” And, unfortunately, I think a good deal of it has been dealt with by freaking out, breaking down, railing at the world, and ultimately just giving up, rather than by calmly reviewing my options and choosing the one that, while it may not be what I wanted to do, will still get me SOMEWHERE instead of leaving me NOWHERE.

And so I stayed and watched Meredith and her coworkers talk their way through an hour of programming, cringing internally when she didn’t get Bill Cosby’s jokes or tried to make her own when she should have just let the man do what he does best. I had to keep going through the five minute cool down to get my 700 calories, but you know what? Five extra minutes didn’t kill me! (shocking, I know.)

The one disappointment that I couldn't overcome was the fact that I forgot to grab something to eat before I ran out the door this morning to workout (all that dreaming of my amt distracted me.) So by the time I finished my cardio, I couldn't stay and do any weights, as I felt like I was just this side of throwing up all over the gym floor (I don’t know about your gym, but they frown upon that where I go.)

So here is my challenge for, well, the foreseeable future, and I extend it to you as well: really look at how you react to disappointment, and what you do with it. Do you look at it, kick it a bit in anger, and then just sit down and do nothing about it? Do you look at it for a few minutes, shocked into staring, before stepping around it to find a new path? Do you simply step over it and move on without flinching? I’m going to be trying for option three.

Fat Lip

My dad has my kids this week. Now let me say, for the record, that I love my kids. But four kids at home ALL day ALL summer long, well, that gets to be a little wearing. Especially when they want to kill each other about 90% of the time. Directly resulting in me wanting to kill them 95% of the time. (Funny thing about percentages - mine don't always match up.) So my response when my dad said that he wanted all four for a week before school starts? Yee-freaking-haw! (That may or may not be a direct quote.)

Hubby and I went to dinner with his mom last night, then to frozen yogurt by ourselves, with some shopping in between (during which I found absolutely nothing and then tried to talk myself into the idea that no, it isn't because there is something wrong with my body, there just wasn't anything in THREE stores for me. Could happen to anyone.)

Today we decided to go and donate some blood before he had to go to work. We race when we give blood, and so far he always wins. I'm no slouch at bleeding, but I am going to claim that gravity works harder on him since he is sooo much taller than me. He beat my by a minute. We did our required ten minutes in the snack area afterwards, munching and drinking, before heading home to eat lunch. Just after we walked in the door, my dad called to tell me "Jonathan's okay, but..." I think that all of us moms know that when a sentence starts out that way, all is not well. Turns out the 3 year old bailed off of a scooter, and Dad was unsure whether or not I might want to take him in for stitches, and a chunk of his lip was MISSING. Hmmmm.

Did I mention my Dad lives about 40 minutes away? So I first talked tried to talk him through taking some pictures and emailing them to me so that I could see what the damage was without him having to load up all four kids and drive them down. Dad could have driven down here by the time we were successful (and in the end he had to post them to my Facebook page because the email thing wasn't happening - note to self to teach Dad how to do some things on him computer the next time I am up there!) At any rate, after talking with the advice nurse, I made an appointment to take him in tonight.

Well, in all the mess of trying to do all that, I forgot to eat (did you know you are supposed to do a lot of that after you give blood?) so by the time I went outside when my dad dropped Jonathan off, I actually almost blacked out. I have never had that happen before, but I was standing there, and suddenly got REALLY nauseas and dizzy, then there was a huge whooshing sound in my ears and I couldn't hear, and I stumbled a bit and had to sit on the lawn with my head between my knees while my oldest ran in to grab me something to eat. I felt like an idiot.

Anyhow, 6 stitches later, Jonathan's lip will heal. (The physicians assistant recognized the boy from putting his cast on a few months ago "Hey bud - how's the arm?" and told me that this kid is going to be scarred up by the time he hits high school. No news flash there.) All he wanted to eat afterwards was rice, soup, and ice cream, so we went to the sushi buffet and had dinner. His lip was numb for a long time, so it was funny to watch him eat/drink/try to smile. I have a feeling my kids are really going to make fun of me and laugh at me when I am old and infirm, just to pay me back.

Because I gave blood today, I wasn't able to workout, but I think that with all the non-eating, my weight shouldn't change too much. The boy has gone back to Pa's house (the thought I had after I had gotten his appointment and felt terrible for him having to have stitches was "Well crap, now Dad is probably going to give all of them back and there goes my week." Thank goodness, that was not the case) and I am enjoying a completely empty, quiet house tonight. I am going to go and read quietly. Or dance around the house naked.

Low Class

Hubby and I were conversing the other night about some of the blogs I read. (He is learning to know you all by name – we had a little quiz.) Anyhow, in particular I was telling him about Chris over at A Deliberate Life - specifically the fact that she has broken into a size 8 (go and congratulate her!) I was, of course, lamenting the fact that never in my life do I recall being a size 8, and how I would love to work my way down. His reply was that it would be a constant struggle for me to remain at that size, to which I responded that it would, but my life would just be so much better. He looked at me and, knowing that what was going through my mind was how I would be a better person, equal to those around me, if only I could lose enough weight, said:

“The numbers are there to help you find clothes that fit you; it is not a class system.”

Every once in a while, Hubby says something that really resonates with me (ok, maybe more often than once in a while, but the man has enough self-esteem – I have to keep it in check!) This statement was one of those. After he said the words, it was as though they echoed through the car. I continued to hear them throughout the night, and even now they keep coming back to me.

I have always looked at my size as something that makes me less than others (how is that for irony?), something that is directly linked to my worth. I have always thought that if I could just get skinny, I would be a better person, my life would be happier, and I would think more of myself. Hubby knows this. And he also knows that what I need to hear, and hear often, is that the number on my jeans is not who I am, does not define me, and does not determine where I fit into the world as a person. So as those words continue to echo, I am striving to lock them down in my brain and keep them there, where hopefully I can begin to believe them.  

Title Change

I've been thinking about it for a while, and couldn't remember why I titled my blog something different than what the address was. So now they match. I plan to be back later with some weight-related blogging.